Talk It Out: How Communication Helps Teams Cooperate and Resolve Conflict
Peer reviewed by Dr. Barry Wiens & Scott Rollo, PhD
Imagine this:
You’re in the middle of a game. The score is close. Then—someone argues about a foul or whether a player was “out.” Suddenly, the mood changes. People get tense and frustrated, and the fun starts to fade.
That’s the thing about games and activities—they’re not only about winning or showing skill. They’re also about people working together. And when people come together, disagreements can happen. The good news? With good communication, tense moments can turn back into teamwork.
Why Communication Matters in Games
Games—whether they’re competitive sports, casual activities in PE, or even playground games—run on cooperation.
Cooperation depends on trust. And trust grows from clear, respectful communication.
When players know how to talk and listen, the game feels fair, the environment feels safe, and more people are willing to join in—even those who aren’t super confident in their abilities. Communication helps everyone feel they belong.
Simple Strategies to Resolve Conflict
You don’t need to be the loudest voice to help a game run smoothly. Here are easy, low-pressure ways anyone can contribute:
Active listening – Good communication starts with listening. It means giving others your full attention and really hearing what they have to say. At the same time, you should feel safe and supported when sharing your own feelings. Respect goes both ways: when you listen openly, you create space for others to do the same. This mutual respect builds the foundation for meaningful conversations where everyone feels heard and valued.
Example: Two players disagree on whether a basketball shot was in. Let each explain before making a decision.Mediation – Involve a neutral person to guide a solution.
Example: Ask a teammate or teacher to help both sides agree calmly.Negotiation – Look for a win–win solution.
Example: If no one can agree on a call, do a quick replay.Compromise – Accept a fair middle ground.
Example: Flip a coin to decide who serves first so the game can continue.
The Role of Leaders and Followers
Leaders (like team captains or activity coordinators) keep the atmosphere respectful, encourage teamwork, and make sure everyone is included.
Followers support leaders by cooperating, following shared decisions, and helping keep the game moving.
Tip: You don’t have to be “in charge” to lead—you can lead by example through kindness, patience, and calm problem-solving.
Quick Actions That Keep Life (Games) Fun
When tensions rise, try:
Addressing the problem calmly (“Let’s pause and figure this out.”)
Listening without interrupting
Acknowledging different viewpoints
Offering a quick apology when needed
Being assertive (clear and respectful), not aggressive
Making sure everyone agrees before resuming play
How Communication Builds Better Teams & Stronger Relationships
Good communication isn’t just for solving problems—it improves the whole game:
Calling plays (“Pass left!”)
Warning teammates of danger (“Behind you!”)
Encouraging each other (“Nice try!” or “Good hustle!”)
This makes games smoother, safer, and more enjoyable—especially for players who might be hesitant to join in.
Reflection Prompts
How do I usually react when there’s a disagreement in a game?
Do I give others a chance to speak before I respond?
What’s one thing I could say or do next time to help my team communicate better?
Bottom Line:
Great teams don’t avoid conflict—they handle it well. And you don’t need to be the fastest, strongest, or most experienced player to help make that happen. If you can talk it out, listen, and stay respectful, you can help turn a tough moment into a stronger team… and a better game for everyone.